Tuesday, April 25, 2006

"I could never find a friend like you in my office" Why so?

I many times hear many of my college friends saying that they could never find people worth to be called as best friends after the college days. They felt none of their office mates are worth to be called as best friends and hence they have stopped making close friends.

As a matter of fact…even i was feeling the same thing for a long time. I many times wondered why is that i don't find those friend like qualities in the office mates, while it was so easy to get real and close friends till school and college days.

In contrast, i observed that my parents generations had very close office friends. My mom's friends even now visit us quite often, after 10 years of her retirement as well. And my dad's colleagues have settled down with us as our neighbors.

I heard many blaming our generation for this saying that present generation gets very selfish as they grow and hence do not believe in friendship and all:)

But then i realized that this is not at all true. In fact we are more sentimental about friendship and relations. And it's the same sentiments that hold us back from making friends.

When i compared the current generation’s professional life with my parents generations, i found one small difference that has made a huge impact.

That's 'Dynamism'! Dynamism in the way people change jobs, which leads to unpredictability about people around us. This in turn leads to disinterest in making friends, as no one knows where they will be the next day:)

My parents have served a single organization for around 30 years… and during their tenure have rarely thought of change of job or place... And as they were confident that they would be in the same place for long time, they could go forward and make stronger personal relations at the work place. Because they knew these relations can be long lasting.

Whereas today i do not know where i will be tomorrow. How many times in a year would i need to change jobs How many times in a year would i need to see new faces sitting next to me. So with so much of dynamism and unpredictability in life, no one wants to get close to people and then suddenly depart.

So the fact is, people are still worth to be our good friends, but we do not go forward to take them as our friends.
The fear of departure, stops us from getting closer to people.

So now i have started disagreeing that we cannot find friend like qualities in office mates. One needs to be receptive to identify them:)

And if someone says, the present generation is selfish, i totally disagree again. In fact we are more sentimental about relations and hence take care in making them.

If i make my hobby as my profession, i can enjoy work better. Right or Wrong?

I have heard many people say that if a person's hobby becomes his profession as well, then he would enjoy his work better and would also excel in it.

But i don't feel it's always true.

In fact in most of the cases, i feel a person should let his hobby remain a hobby, and his profession remain his profession.
Because hobby needs a 90 percent heart and 10 percent head..whereas for a profession one needs 90% head and 10% percent heart:)

Is a person enjoying his profession or not, depends not just on the work he is doing, but on so many factors like the environment, the people with whom he is working, the work pressure, the importance of his work and so many more like this.

Whereas when it comes to hobbies, each individual behaves independently while working on his hobbies. There are no environmental constraints or work pressure around him. So this way his hobbies refreshes and rejenuates him and keeps him creative. He is the king when he is with his hobby.

For example, if i have painiting as a hobby , i can scribble or paint anything that comes to my mind and feel happy and refreshed after it (ofcourse with social responsibility).
But then...if I make it my profession because it's my hobby, can i just paint anything that i want to?:). No. I will be driven by the environment, requirements and ofcourse my boss.

So in a hobby, we just have social responsibility, but in a profession, we have social responsibility as well as accountability.
M.F. Hussain aaahh..poor guy is a good example for this, who tried to paint some rubbish(rubbish as per indian tradition) with his whole heart, and then public around him screwed his peace for that:)

So, if you are making your hobbies as your profession...it's better you start making something else as your hobbies. Else life starts to suck...

I am making this post after talking to one on friends sister.
She has just passed out of the college and looking out for a job.
She feels call center would be right profession for her because she loves to talk to her friends for long hours on phone. And it seems most of the times she is doing that only when she is at home:)
Lady hasn't realised yet that 'friends are friends' and 'customers are customers'...and in few days she would definetly want to run away from her phone and monotonous phone calls:)

But ofcourse, exception are alsways their...and those are the luckiest people who could make their hobby as their profession and still feel happy about it.

So be careful when you decide!

Saturday, April 15, 2006

He MUST be lacking something to say ' I DON"T WANT DOWRY'- Is this true?

There is a new matrimonial site that has been started - http://www.idontwantdowry.com/ .
I came to know about this from The Hindu daily.

This site is specifically meant for people ,who care only for having a good life with a good wife and damn care about dowry that she would get with her.

This is an excellent initiative to eradicate the dowry system from India.And good thing is that there are so many people who have already registered in this site:)

But then....is that all???

I remember my long back discussion with some of my friends who were looking out for matches for themselves. And they belonged to families where huge dowries (called katnam in south india) are taken and given as a ritual.

One of them was looking out for a match for his sister as well.
So when I asked him what he thinks about dowry system , he said that he is basically against dowry system and plans not to take dowry. Good:)

And then at a later point i asked him what's happeneing at his sister's marriage front.
He said they have a match of a boy who is good...but they want to do a proper background check first as they are a bit supicious that there could be some problem.
I asked him why they think that way...
He said the boy's family is not taking any dowry..so we have a doubt that they would be having something lacking or deficiant and hence might be sacrificing the dowry:)
Haha..What must i say about this thought process. If someone takes dowry then he is bad...and if he doesn't then something is wrong with him:)

So just starting a matromonial site is not enough, what matters is how much respect would society give the registrants of the site.

They deserve our respect and not an eye of suspicion!

Thursday, April 13, 2006


Got this from a friend...

1. You accidentally enter your password on the microwave.
2. You haven't played solitaire with real cards in years.
3. You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of
4. You e-mail the person who works at the desk next to you.
5. Your reason for not staying in touch with friends and family is that they don't have e-mail addresses.
6. You pull up in your own driveway and use your cell phone to see if anyone is home to help you carry in the groceries.
7. Every commercial on television has a web site at the bottom of the screen.
8. Leaving the house without your cell phone, which you didn't have the first 20 or 30 (or 60) years of your life, is now a cause for panic and you turn around to go and get it.
10. You get up in the morning and go on line before getting your coffee.
11. You start tilting your head sideways to smile. : )
12. You're reading this and nodding and laughing.
13. Even worse, you know exactly to whom you are going to forward this message.
14. You are too busy to notice there was no #9 on this list.
15. You actually scrolled back up to check that there wasn't a #9 on this list.AND NOW U R LAUGHING at yourself.Go on, forward this to your friends you know you want to! You know you are living in 2006!

I am adding number 9. to it which is missing...
9. You search for your neighbours address in 'Google.com' ;)

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Unmanaged Power Cuts By the Andhra Pradesh Government:(

Hyderabad is nearing peak Summer and also the children are nearing their peak final exams.
And summer also brings tough time for the aged people and infants, who are less resistant to the such weather conditions.

Amidst all this, to worsen the situation are the power cuts and low voltages during the night times:(

I wonder why our government lead by Y.S Rajsekhar reddy can't plan the power cuts as it was done earlier during the times of Mr. Chandra Babu Naidu.

I very clearly remember the kind of planning that used to be done for power cuts earlier! Simply superb!
During the exam time, there were no power cuts after 8.00 P.M as the children had to study at night. And power cuts used to be there only in the morning hours and that too in a very planned way. And it was informed to the people much in advance through News papers as which areas will have power cut and at what time.
This way even the power consumption was regulated and at the same time people also did not get affected much.

But now, it's not the same!Everyday after coming back from A/C office, it's like hell at home at night. Children (infants) in my neaighbours house usually spend their whole night crying. And for the aged people, nights bring nightmares.

Dear Mr Y.S Rajsekhar Reddy: I respect you and our government for lot of things Sir, but i would advice you (or anyone in politics for that matter) to accept certain good things done earlier and continue it, even if it's done by your opponent.

Now my UPS is also giving my alarms , so time to stop here...

Hope for better times:)

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

The Indian Idol on Sony- Who is getting benefitted?

I recently found my lost blog(this one) , so blogging here again.

I have been consistenly watching the Indian Idol show in Sony TV since last year.
I must appreciate the judges for selecting such good talents and bringing them to the foreground.

But what happens after that is a total mess:(
They take the name of democracy, and ask people to send sms to vote for their preferred ones. And the funniest part is each individual can send any number of SMS's as he can....
Because of this dumb system, last year Rahul Vaidya, an excellent singer was out of the contest.
I don't say Abhijeet Sawant is not good, but i think the best people are loosing their chance to win because of allowing people to vote multiple times.

This year the experience has been even worser...the contest has become regional. People are voting to their own contestent and trying to bring pride to their own state. I don't say it's wrong to feel proud if someone from your state is winning. But what's more important is that the right talent wins. Amey was such a good singer, but still had to get voted out:(

Obviously this would happen, because equal opportunity is not given to every voter to vote for his candidate. Instead people are allowed to vote any number of times based on the pocket weight.

Ultimately who is getting benefitted is neither the people, nor the contestants, nor the film and music industry, and nor Sony...

The only one person getting benefitted is Airtel and Hutch.

I think this sytem of voting thru multiple SMS must be stopped ASAP. This is one way of gambling. Last year even Ms World or Ms Universe (don't remember exactly) was also on this stupid system.

I hope tomorrow we don't have to select our leaders with this type of SMS voting system!
If that's done, then i think It's time to think of a virus program to crash these systems. Just kidding:)

But i really hope people, the media ,Television and the Government realise this bad wave and excersice some control over it.

And ..Inspite of all this mess, i sincerely wish that Karunya wins this time's Idian Idol:).
And this is not because he is from my state, but because he is extremely talented.
An excellent singer indeed!